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Writer’s Block: Tasty Tuesday

August 16, 2011 Love, Tasty Tuesdays 1 Comment

Sort of like me.

I met Jayson at a local coffee shop when my net book and I were on the outs. My net book was of the opinion that it didn’t need to turn on. I had other plans for it. When Jayson walked in and ordered his tea and tuna sandwich on a bagel, I was slamming my computer into the marble of the table. Jayson, tea in one hand, sandwich in the other, stood over me, an amused expression on his face.

“Perhaps you should stop banging it on the table. I don’t think that’s going to help”.

I glanced up at him. “Thank you, Captain Obvious. Who are you?”

Jayson rested his tea and sandwich on the shelf behind my table, next to the historical fiction novels. He knelt and gently, slowly, took the computer out of my hands and smiled.

He had the prettiest white teeth I had ever seen, framed by succulent lips.


Wow.

Still kneeling, he turned the computer to him, and, with strong dark chocolate hands that belied his average height and stature, flicked the switch on the front. He turned the computer back to me and quietly placed it back on the table. “Try it now”. I looked at him skeptically. “You still haven’t answered my question…Who are you?” He smiled again, two rows of pearly white teeth, perfect in shape, sending their warmth my way. “I’m Jayson. Try to turn it on now”. I raised my eyebrow, but turned the computer on again.

It came on without a problem. I looked up at him, stunned.

He chuckled. “I have the same net book. When I first got it, I would make the mistake of turning the wireless off, so it wouldn’t turn on. When I saw you trying to destroy your computer, I was pretty sure you had made the same mistake that I did”. I nodded in agreement. “Nice. I surely didn’t realize it…this is the first net book I’ve ever had”. I gestured to my pad and pencil, neatly next to my now functioning net book. “I’m an old fashioned girl”.

I should’ve known at that moment that Jayson was going to be a blessing and a curse all at once.

He glanced over at my pad and noted, “You’re a writer?” I nodded. He picked up the pad and, before I could even get a chance to take it from him, he looked over what I wrote. Then, he reached for the pencil on my table, and, swiftly, scribbled something on the paper, struck some lines out, and handed it back to me.

If looks could kill, Jayson would have collapsed right in front of me.

“What…did you just do?” I asked. He winked. “I made you better”.

Then he walked away.

I don’t think I could’ve been more incensed if he had taken my baby out of my hands and ran away. You don’t just…edit another writer’s work without their consent. Hell, editors will tell you, it is their job to edit work …and writers still get upset when they see those proverbial ‘red marks’. Erykah Badu put it best: “Now you know I’m an artist…and I’m sensitive about my shit…

I was pissed. I was mad. I was about to go over there and tell him the hell about himself. I was…

I read what he wrote. He took my words, spaced them out, and gave them definition with a simple line break. Plus he left his number.

He was a damn genius. Now I was even madder.

He was a genius who had violated my writing pad with two scribbles…an infuriating genius with pretty teeth, great lips, a strong hand, and, I noticed after wards, a broad back.

Thus began the journey that Jayson and I took together. Both writers, our stories ranged from his relationship tinged sagas to real life advice, to my historical fiction and ask the expert series. But what drew us to each other, what caused us the most pleasurable pain, was the erotica that tied us both. We would fight often, simply to make up and pen our sordid tales.

He would leave post-its on my desk in my home office, uncompleted lines of sensual cloze that required an orgasmic conclusion. Sometimes, I would take my fine tipped Sharpie pen and fill in the blanks, my pen the foreplay, my written kisses leaving permanent flurries on his brain, his earmarked book full of my erotic notes.

His words were maddening, his arrogance both repulsive and appealing. And yet…we had never slept together…until that night…

I took my newly re-edited book to the publisher for review and marking. Leaving the building, I saw Jayson, leaned against the building, quietly waiting for something, what, I didn’t know. I looked at him. His eyes, brown and doe like, were intense as they burned a hole in my chest. I glared back at him, still unwilling to yield to what I saw as an adverse travesty. I was used to Jayson telling me that my writing was amazing but that my placement of words was paltry at best. I was accustomed to him switching my words around, simply to make them better.

This last edit was unforgiveable.

He took the book that took me ages to finish and deleted all of the editor’s notes in the margin, replacing them with some of his own. His reason? “Your editor sucks, kid”. It took everything in me not to throttle him right then and there. He stared at me as the sky threatened us both, taunting us to move with its rumble. I stared back at him.

The sky cracked another warning.

Coming off of the wall, he glared at me.

I glared back at him.

“They loved the changes, didn’t they.” His statement was plaintive, so self assured that he was right, he was beyond arrogance.

I was beyond incensed. I blew up.

“What the fuck, man? It’s not about whether they liked the shit or not! It’s about you always changing my shit! What, am I not good enough? What is your fucking problem?” Jayson simply stared at me, as he tended to do when I had my moments. I glared at him as the first rain drop hit my face. Then another. Quietly, he stepped closer to me, his graphic tee becoming just as wet as the graphics on it implied.

He leaned in and gently licked a drop from my rain kissed lip.

I shuddered. I was still mad. I was even madder that I was wet – and it had nothing to do with the rain.

“They loved the changes. Didn’t they”.

It began to pour.

A low guttural sound came from the base of my throat as his lips touched it, my head nodding slightly to the affirmative, even as I stopped thinking about my story. I felt like I was in a living cliché, being kissed in the rain. All I could concentrate on was the feel of his lips, soft and tender, placing delicately strong kisses along my neck bone, his hands writing his version of diction on my curves, reading me like I was his first book.

The way he knew my work incensed me. The way he knew my body aroused me.

I pushed him away slightly. “What…what are you doing…we should really go…”

He chuckled at me, as he often did. “You don’t want to go anywhere. You want to stay right here…don’t you?”

His hands held me in place. I could feel him, curved and hung to the right…that solid part of him, pressed against me, playing with me through the barrier of our clothes.

The droplets of water trickling down my back from the rain reminded me of something I’d read once. I enjoyed a good fantasy, but as a writer, I found myself creating the fantasy for others. There were very few people that could create the fantasy for me. Jayson introduced me to writers who ‘fucked with their pen’ the same way I did. The same way he did.

He looked me in the eyes. He gripped my bottom lip with his. He kept looking into my eyes.

He sucked on it. Whispering against it, he rasped, “Didn’t you tell me this was your fantasy?”

The sky cracked. It rained harder.

He kissed me and I saw stars. Cliché, but true. I kissed him back, unsure at first. We had only written about our passion. Even in his correction, even in his line breaks of my written work, never did I imagine that I would be in this moment. Never did I think that he was paying attention to more than just my work.

His hands moved their way under my dress, soaked as it was. I gripped the drenched collar of his button down shirt, took his earlobe into my mouth and gently nibbled. Strong and deft fingers found my delta. Chocolate hands rubbed against freshly waxed deep caramel skin. I kissed him under his earlobe. He pulled back from my kisses and looked at me, lust deep in his brown eyes.

“You’re not wearing any underwear”.

I smiled a gentle smile.

He kissed me again, his tongue probing my mouth, his fingers exploring the bare expanse of skin unadorned by its usual lacy accoutrement. He found my clit and I gasped on his lip. I let my hands run down his back, my fingers finding their way down to his waist. He whispered, his succulent lip against mine, “this one is for you”.

He wrote his name across my clit with his index finger. I gasped audibly.

He shushed me, him pressing me against the brick wall of the building his gentle reminder of where we were. His ring finger entered me…stroking me gently…his other finger telling a story…his lips narrating our sordid outdoor tale.

He added another finger to the party. I squirmed…fought with the urge to cry out. He chuckled softly.

“Don’t squirm”.

I felt my body arch as his fingers moved in me, my clit humming its own tune. The orgasm snuck up on me…crept through my groin…made my legs weak, his gentle thrusts going deep, catching my vibrations, cupping me.

He moved his fingers one by one.

I was right there.

Fighting the urge to cry out, I grabbed his shirt harder, my clit throbbing, crying out for release. I kissed him…hard. I felt his smirk against my lips. He uttered, softness to softness…”you ready yet?” I nodded furiously, my body curving to his, my lower half craving him. He chuckled. “Are you ready to come?” I gasped, “please…”

He looked me in my eyes. “Please who?”

I groaned. He shushed me, shaking his head. “Please who…?”

I whispered, “Jayson…Jayson, please…”

He chuckled again. I screamed inwardly. Infuriating bastard.

His whole hand cupped me, applied gentle pressure. I ground my clit into him, desperate for release. He moved his hand away. “Stop that. Pay attention for once”. I dug my nails into his wet back. He grabbed both my hands with his free hand, placed them over my head with one motion, his other hand resuming his story – cupping me, alternately stroking me, teasing that swollen part of me, bringing me back to the brink…

Jayson’s voice startled me. I fell out of the chair, my knee grazing my desk as I fell.

He stared at me, shaking his head as he held his hand out to pull me up.

I fell asleep? When? Last I remembered, Jayson had come over to look over my latest manuscript that I was submitting for publishing.

I looked at him, still half in a daze, as he dropped my manuscript on my desk. “I read through your manuscript. Not bad, but you still can’t do a line break for shit. And your editor sucks”. He pulled on his coat and left, calling behind him, “let me know how it goes tomorrow”. Still in a daze, I picked up the manuscript and thumbed through it.

I paused.

He had changed all the editor’s notes in the margin.

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I Got Bamboozled By Spike Lee (This Ain’t MovieFone)

In case you didn’t realize, this year marks the 20th anniversary of Spike Lee’s classic film, Do the Right Thing. In honor of this milestone, a couple of New York natives have come together to pay tribute to the noted director with a host of events throughout his hometown of Brooklyn over the course of the next few days (CLICK HERE for info). They’ve even set up a great site called WheresMars.com. The name refers to Spike’s iconic character, Mars Blackmon, who he made famous in his breakout film, She’s Gotta Have It, and popular Nike ad campaign in the ’90s. I happened to bump into the sister behind the tribute at the Brooklyn Hip-Hop Festival on Saturday and she told me they were compiling people’s personal stories either having met Spike Lee or how he’s impacted their life. Well, boy, do I got a story to tell… … Continue Reading

Breaking Up is Easy, Dating Again Isn’t (Where Do I Start?)

Dear NWSO,

I just recently ended a 10-year relationship and it’s the only relationship I’ve ever been in. My problem is I don’t know how to date. How and where do I start?

Well, first of all if you just ended a 10-year relationship you need to date yourself first before rushing back out there. What I mean by that is, when I ended a three-year relationship that included living together, I had no clue who I was anymore. I mean, I knew what we did on the weekend or for fun, but I forgot what I did for fun. When I realized that I told myself that I didn’t need to rush into another relationship right off the bat because I’d probably look to make this new person into my old person. I needed to take a little time to myself before I jumped back on the dating scene. I threw myself into my friends and work for a bit until it felt right.

As for getting back into the dating scene once you’re ready, that’s a whole other ballgame, especially after 10 years because a lot’s changed since you were last on the scene. I’m not sure of your age, but based on the decade of dating I’ll assume you’re a “mature” woman. You can try browsing online dating sites to get your feet wet if you want, but if real world dates are what you’re looking for asking friends and people you trust is always a good starting point—either someone they can co-sign or just hanging out where other single folk are.

Whatever approach you take the key is to not compare anyone new to your ex, but considering the amount of time you spent together and the fact that this was your only relationship I know that will be hard. More than likely he is all you know and for the past decade things were on autopilot, but just because your ex liked to do certain things or acted a particular way doesn’t mean the next person will. They are completely different people. So keep that in mind with whomever you go out with.

Getting over your first love is never easy and it’ll be a long process to get to a point where you feel comfortable back out there. You may even want to backtrack and go back to your ex at times, but if y’all broke up for a serious reason you have to remember that and move on accordingly. Just because something is comfortable or familiar doesn’t mean it’s right for you.

It’s a sad part of life that we all have to go through a breakup at some point. Some just have them earlier in life than others. I’m sure give the long-term nature of your last relationship, you assumed that it would have had a happily ever after ending. Unfortunately, that wasn’t the case and you have to join the rest of us on the long journey to finding true love again.

Hopefully you have a strong crew of friends and family that can prep you for dating in a whole new century. LOL! Good luck!

CLICK HERE for advice I’ve given on a similar issue.

Do you agree that people need to date themselves for a while after a break up? Have you ever been so caught up in a relationship that when it’s over you forgot who you were in terms of doing things without your partner? Did you compare everyone you met to your ex after your first break up? Have you ever been the rebound relationship for someone? How long do you think someone should wait before dating seriously after getting out of a long-term relationship? Would you suggest online dating as a good way to get your feet wet? What advice would you give this woman on getting back on the dating scene?

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Why Do Bad Dates Happen to Good People?

March 31, 2011 Lifestyle No Comments

“I can honestly say that I’ve never had a bad date. Well… there was that one time where my date brought along two other people along for the ride but that’s a blog for another time. Aside from that one instance, though, I can’t think of a time where the lady I was with and I didn’t enjoy each other’s company. Even if there was no real romantic chemistry, we always had a good time.

People always look at me like I really am naked with socks on when I tell them about my good date streak. Based on most folks’ horror stories I’m sort of an anomaly. I’ve heard everything from lame conversation and halitosis to stalkerish behavior and big girl/guy tendencies. Well, on the way home after my one-year anniversary party a week and a half ago, me and my man Larry spotted a drunken date disaster in progress. Luckily, I had my trusty new FlipCam handy and charged up to capture this courtship calamity. Before we get to the video footage, let me first set the scene.

Larry and I were walking down 6th Ave. when he decided to grab a late night snack from McDonalds. (NAKED FACT: NWSO doesn’t consume fast food during regular hours and damn sure wasn’t gonna start at 11 o’clock at night, but to each his or her own). On our way in we noticed a dude hunched over a car with a young lady caring to his drunken needs. Apparently, he had hurled the contents of the Mickey D’s bag to the left of him, along with whatever alcoholic beverages that got him into this stupor, out on to the street. Larry and I just shook our heads and proceeded inside.

Fifteen minutes later Larry and I exit the house of Ronald McDonald and notice that Mr. Upchuck has moved down the block to the hood of another car. I guess the owner of the other car asked him to move or his lady friend tried and failed to get him to walk any further. At any rate, she was unsuccessfully attempting to hail a cab, while Mr. Upchuck was doing his business on the piles of trash bags to his right. Oh, and I forgot to mention, dude had on some bright lime green “mannies” (that’s man panties) hanging out the back of his pants. Needless to say, it was a sight to behold.

Being that I was a bit tipsy, thanks to the wonderful party that the ladies of Digital Glam Squad had thrown for me, I decided to document this debacle of a date, while Larry and I provided some tipsy play-by-play commentary. Things got heated when shorty started barkin’ on Mr. Upchuck, because every time a cab was about to stop it would peel off as soon as the driver started Mr. Lime Green Mannies.

I give her props for maintaining her cool for as long as she did and actually stickin’ by her drunk-ass man. The funny thing is Larry and I joked about trying to kick it to shorty, but before we knew it a guy swooped in and beat us to the punch. Homeboy actually tried to kick game while her man was on the side blowin’ chunks. Larry and I broke out shortly after that, so I don’t know if homie got the number but if he did, shorty’s man can’t blame her—he can blame it on the alcohol.

Have you ever had an extremely bad date? What made it so bad? Did you give him/her a second chance or burn their number? What would you do if your date (or friend) was so twisted that they were hurling in the street? Would you leave them to their own devices or hold him/her down like shorty did? Do you have any sympathy for people that can’t hold their liquor? Have you ever been so drunk that someone else had to take care of you? What would you do if you were the girl in the clip below?

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13 Annoying Things People Do on the Train #StopIt

March 3, 2011 Lifestyle No Comments

Ride the train in a city like New York long enough and you’ll quickly notice that there are a lot of dumb people out there. Folks that are so lost in their own world that they don’t even realize when they’re being rude, disrespectful, or just plain obnoxious. Matter fact, a while back GangStarrGirl introduced me to a site called SubwayDouchery.com that’s dedicated to documenting the craziness and downright dumb ish that abounds in the mass transit system.

As a daily commuter I’ve come across a lot of strange characters underground (Remember the Brooklyn Shabba story?) and given the fact that the NYC MTA decided to raise fares again (the third time in three years) despite the blizzard that crippled my train line for nearly a week, today’s post is a toast to the assholes, douchebags and jerkoffs that ride the iron worm. Consider it a wakeup call as some folks might not even realize that they’re a subway douchebag but if you’ve committed any of the following infractions then you’re guilty as charged.

1. PLAYING LOUD MUSIC

In case you missed the memo here’s a news flash for you: They’ve invented something called headphones back in the 1930s that allows you and only you to hear the music you want. What I really don’t get are those darn kids that blast music on their phones. Like seriously, that’s as bad as dudes walking around with a boombox in 2011. #RadioRaheem

2. TALKING LOUD

It doesn’t matter if you’re talking on the phone or to the person next to you but if your voice is louder than the rumble of the train you need to take it down a notch. And is it just me, or do people that speak another language talk the loudest? It’s like they do it on purpose because they know that no one else can understand them.

3. WEARING A BLUETOOTH

It’s not like you can get service underground; so why the hell are you wearing a Bluetooth on the train? You just look dumb and that flashing light is just annoying.

4. MAKING OUT
I’m all for love and people being affectionate but there’s a time and a place for everything. Take your PDA and get a room already. I don’t need to see you slobbing down each other, especially if y’all are not hot. Keep it moving.

5. STEPPING ON FIRST & THEN BLOCKING THE DOOR

Yes, I’m one of those people that likes to lean up against the door, but that’s why I tend to let people go before me and I board last. However, there are those people that push past you and as soon as they step on the train they just stop and stand right there. WTF! You know people are right behind you so do like Ludacris and move trick, get out the way.

6. RUSHING FOR A SEAT… AND THEN GETTING OFF NEXT STOP

WTH! I hate those folks that bogard their way past you and the people actually getting off the train just so they can stand right in front of the opening doors to grab an empty seat. It was Austrian physicist Wolfgang Pauli who came up with the Pauli Exclusion Principle, which basically says that no two solid objects can occupy the same space at the exact same time. With that said, the people getting off need to get off first so your dumbass can get on. What makes it even worse is when the seat fiend gets off on the next stop. I secretly get a kick out of seeing them not get a seat.

7. SPREADING LEGS OUT TOO WIDE OR PUTTING BAGS/FEET UP

Men are the guiltiest of spreading their legs out (especially Black men) or putting their feet up on the pole or in the aisle, but ladies that put their precious bags on the seats are just as wrong. It’s one thing if the train is empty, but if it’s the middle of rush hour and you’re hogging up too much space you can actually get a ticket.

8. EATING/DRINKING

I know we all get hungry or thirsty in this busy world of ours so some of us have to get our grub on whenever we can but the train should be off limits—especially if it’s some stank concoction you made at home. Now you got the whole train smelling like boiled eggs and onions. Oh, and for the morning coffee drinkers, make sure your balance is on point because if you spill that piping hot stuff on me or my stuff, we’re going to have a problem.

9. FARTING

This is like the ultimate form of disrespect to the other passengers—especially to kids and little people, who are directly in the line of fire—and it becomes a mass game of who-did-it? That’s why I always feel bad every time I let one go in a crowded car like nothing happened. LOL I kid, I kid.

10. OPEN STROLLERS OR CRYING BABIES
I know we can’t all afford a car, but I know most parents at least wish they did. It’s not the fact you’ve got a stroller that ticks me off at times, it’s when you have that open stroller. Rush hour has got to be the worst possible time to try and fit a baby carriage on a train, but still people try. And I won’t fault any parents for having a crying baby because you can’t control that, but that doesn’t mean it ain’t annoying. #Sorry

11. NOT GIVING UP YOUR SEAT FOR PREGNANT/ELDERLY/DISABLED

I understand being tired after a long day but that’s no excuse for sitting on your ass while a pregnant woman, elderly person or disabled person stands right in front of you. That’s just all types of wrong.

12. WEARING A BACKPACK ON A CROWDED TRAIN
#C’MonSon Why are you wearing that big ass bag on your back acting like people can get by you. Common sense would say you should take your backpack off hold it in your hand or between your legs. Anything else is just uncivilized.

13. LEANING ON THE POLE WHEN IT’S CROWDED
I’ve seen this happen more times than I’d care to admit, but some a-hole decides that he/she is tired and is going to lean on the pole comfortably no matter how crowded the train is. The sad part is when people try to grab on to the pole and subtly poke them with their rings, the pole leaner has a nerve to get mad like they not only paid for the pole but also installed and polished it. GTFOH! That’s just mad rude, the only time this is even remotely acceptable is if it’s someone like the lovely lady below. As long as I’m behind her she can lean on any pole that she damn well pleases.

How many of these things have you experienced while taking public transportation (or a plane or bus)? Which one annoys you the most? Have you ever confronted someone for being that obnoxious? Have people just lost all sense of common courtesy towards one another? Are you guilty of doing any of the above? If so, have you ever thought about how you’re inconveniencing others? Are you a Subway Douchebag? What would you add to the list?

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