Sometimes it’s just over…
I’d like to think it’s the funnel cake…or maybe the carefree feeling on the carousel…
I am so guilty of staying too long at the fair. It starts off nostalgic then it just turns into complacency. At that point, it becomes…well…
As harsh a reality as it may be, some relationships are meant to end. Not everyone is meant to be in your life forever. You meet men – plenty of men – along your journey to the right one. Most of them are placed in your life to help you see what you refuse to tolerate, the majority come into your life and inflict a pain so deep, you’ll hold on to “Mr. Right” for dear life when you find him. Then there are those “glitch in the radar” guys. These are the guys that were fun while it lasted, but left you with an indifferent feeling towards them and the relationship. Be mindful that this not the guy who you STILL secretly wish bodily harm. You used that “glitch in the radar” guy to get over him…memba?
As I get older, I’m learning to not make the same mistakes. Based on my experience, I started an ever-increasing list of things to look out for and run for the hills when encountered. They’ve helped me thus far and may be a benefit to you:
Problem: The Liar – they say there’s something in your aura that influences the types of men you meet. Well I don’t have a clue what that may be in me, but I am like flypaper to a fly for a lying man. I mean the type that will stare in your face and lie about something that can easily be refuted – like the day of the week.
Solution: So, my new strategy is simple…RUN LIKE MY TAIL IS ON FIRE THE DAY I MEET “MR. UNABLE TO TELL THE TRUTH ABOUT ANYTHING”!!! He won’t improve or change. Instead, he will continue to lie about everything. You simply can’t build a life with a liar because you can’t trust them. Trust is way too important for a strong relationship.
Problem: The Ladies Man – if he has several women, you have to assume he will continue to have several women. Yes, this type of man can grow into the most faithful and attentive man because they’ve gotten all the philandering out of their system, but I’m just not staying around to see if it will happen.
Solution: I don’t know when his changing point will be and how close I am to the end of the line. I’ll pass.
Problem: The Anti-Commitment Man – this one is tricky because I wouldn’t ask a man on day one if he was looking for a long term relationship, but when can you ask? You just might end up staying until you find out.
Solution: Ask the Long Island Medium.
Problem: The Mama’s Boy – I don’t have much to say about this one. I just ain’t havin’ it! If you aren’t ready to cut the cord, that’s fine, I’m just not staying. It’s one thing to love your mother, but it’s another when you are emotionally dependent.
Solution: Friendzone him IMMEDIATELY!!
Although the list is still in progress, I have my running shoes strapped up for when those encounters happen. I’m breaking the cycle…my determination is serious! No longer will I stay in hopes of a change. Next time the foolery of any kind rears its ugly head…catch me if you can!
The Sexpert & The Strategist
